Porn As Sex Education

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There is a lot of controversy about pornography. In fact, I have written a blog about how a small percentage of people who consume a lot of porn end up with porn induced sexual dysfunction. The research is slim, but the people I see in my office are real, and when they abstain from watching erotica, they report that their sexual functioning returns to normal. I have also been adamant about telling people that pornography is a horrible sex education tool and ought to be used for entertainment purposes only. HOWEVER, BaDoinkVR, an adult virtual reality entertainment company, recently announced that they have brought together porn stars and an expert in human sexuality to help couples and individuals learn Masters and Johnson type skills. They call it Virtual Sexology.

August Ames and Tommy Gunn are the stars hired to direct users through an assortment of exercises, including sensate focus (non-demand, non-genital touching), the stop/start technique (used to treat premature ejaculation), and breathing practices to enhance sexual pleasure and decrease anxiety. Even more fascinating is the use of teledildonics (I love this word!). Teledildonics are sex toys that are used to communicate tactile sensations over long distances. What this means is that the people interacting with the porn star can actually feel the movements that are being simulated. This kind of coaching is revolutionary, since traditional sex therapy is clothes on and hands off. It can be done in the privacy of ones own home and is likely to be cost effective, although I have not looked into the price of a subscription or the accompanying teledildonics.

There are drawbacks to Virtual Sexology as well. My understanding is that, like most things sex related, the target audience is men. The goal is teaching guys about their own bodies and how they work but not so much about understanding a woman’s body and her pleasure. Additionally, it perpetuates myths that being a good lover means having a hard penis. So. Not. True. Nevertheless, I find this technology full of possibilities that can help people (okay mostly men at this point in time) build sexual confidence, decrease anxiety, and provide sex education. It is a good first step in bridging the gap between porn and sex education.

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Rae Dolman, full-time mom and part-time sex therapist, is a registered psychotherapist with the College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario (CRPO), a clinical member with the Ontario chapter of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (OAMFT), and is a registered sex therapist with the Board of Examiners in Sex Therapy and Counseling in Ontario (BESTCO). Rae currently works at The Mindfulness Clinic.

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